Thursday, February 4, 2010
Do You Know Your Child's Love Language?
I remember awhile back when I was first married, I dove into the book The FIve Love Languages. This helped me learn much more about my spouse and how he communicates with his love language. What a difference that has made.
Taking that a step further, I have been looking for the love languages in my children. They too need to be loved in a way they understand. I have not yet read the book that was made for children but I believe the concept is probably the same. What have I found out?
Lyshie's main love language is gift giving. That is followed up by words of affirmation. Let me give you an example. Lyshie loves to purchase and make gifts for everyone around her. To her, that is the way she shows them love. In turn, the way you show Allysha love is by getting/making her gifts. The same thing rings true with words of affirmation. She needs to know she's doing a great job in her chores and school, etc... That is also the way she shows love - by telling others how well they are doing.
Jonathan's main love language is words of affirmation and physical touch. Jonathan daily will say "mom, I just love you". We've made sure to let him know daily with our words that we love him too. This is followed by physical touch. Jon LOVES to have his back rubbed and in turn loves to do that for others. He's just sure it makes them feel great.
As far as Joshua, we are still learning more about him. I'm thinking he'll be quality time and touch but I'm not sure as of yet.
What about your children ? Do you know their love language? If not, find out what it is. When you do, I encourage you to show them love in their own language.